The permanent separation of family prompts additional burdens resulting in a higher risk of suicide. Why does humanity need to address this?  Since the transactions have increased in popularity among evangelicals, and therefore children more accessible, the public on both sides of the globe needs to be aware of the crisis. Some agencies have lured applicants in at lower “applicant” prices and then request for additional funding. They will paint adoption as if a win-win—even for the parent of loss.

Some adoption agencies have been known to collect up to $75,000+ per child and call their efforts a “service.” But what is worse for the adopted person is to learn that you were never orphaned in the first place, rather routinely labeled by the adoption machine so that they could process you under the false guise of orphanhood. This may seem rare, but after being engaged and surrounded by the global adult adoptee community, I have learned that such profiteering has gone on for decades (centuries even) wherever adoption occurs which is now customarily everywhere.

Children have been advertised as if orphaned in private photo-listings and catalogs and few have been able to successfully fight this catastrophe and corruption because of the profound trust and love for the entities who process children.

“I learned more about Korea and International adoption from this book than I’ve ever learned in 36 years of life.”

On top of this pain is the fear of rejection by our birth families. I’ve heard stories of adoptees who’ve spent years searching as soon as they were old enough to be permitted to inquire. Typically this is age eighteen, but some are as young as fourteen (or younger, actually) and others wait until they are seniors or even elders. (I share my search experience in the book titled The Search for Mother Missing: A Peek Inside International Adoption.) Facilitators use tactics convincing mothers to feel guilty as if their pregnancies are shameful.

Some adoptive parents refuse adopted people the right to search. Strong emotions such as competition and jealousy come hand-in-hand with a potential reunion. I have seen how adoptees are lulled, pulled towards one agenda, pushed, and pushed away. In fact, for those of you who are familiar with the division, several battles currently brew in the adoption community.

Want to make adoption history and expand the voice of adoption?

Janine Myung Ja
The rEvolutionary “Adoptee” Collective

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