“So what does it feel like to be adopted? A weird amalgamation of rejection and acceptance. Someone’s trash is someone else’s treasure. It’s been difficult for me to accept that my parents actually love me and that they’re not just putting me on a shelf somewhere to gawk at and to call their own. I’m still figuring it out.” An unnamed adoptee
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*Adopted people are, in fact, four times more likely to attempt suicide than non-adoptees.
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