Adoptees search for their mothers because, simply put, they are their mothers. That is, until adoption profiteers changed the narrative with a stroke of a pen, inserting the word “birth” before mother to redefine and diminish her role. This clever linguistic manipulation reframed the mother as secondary, devaluing her existence and reducing her to a mere footnote in her child’s life. It empowered adoptive parents, who were now seen as the sole “real” parents, and conveniently benefited adoption agencies that profit from adoptive parents paying for a child.
But here’s the truth: Adoption does not erase biology, nor does it sever the innate human need to know where we come from. The search for one’s origins is not about rejecting adoptive parents—it’s about reclaiming what was taken, often without consent. It is about truth, identity, and self-understanding.
The Importance of Keeping the Truth on the Birth Certificate
One of the most devastating injustices in adoption is the falsification of birth certificates. When a child is adopted, their original birth certificate is sealed, and a new one is issued, listing the adoptive parents as if they were the biological parents. This legal erasure denies adoptees their true lineage and creates a barrier to accessing their history.
No Adoption Agency Should Have the Right to Take Truth Away.
A birth certificate is a historical document, not a piece of fiction that can be rewritten to fit a legal transaction. An adoptee will one day want to know who they truly are, and they deserve access to that information without restrictions, red tape, or secrecy.
What Society Can Do to Restore the Truth
- Recognize That a Mother is a Mother – The term “birth mother” should not be used to diminish or erase her role. She is a mother, period. Society must reject the language that adoption profiteers have crafted to disempower mothers and adoptees alike.
- End the Sealing of Original Birth Certificates – Laws that seal birth records must be abolished. Every person has the right to their own history, and adoptees should not have to fight for access to something that was never ethically theirs to lose.
- Stop Adoption Profiteers – Adoption should not be about supplying children to those who can afford them. Profit-driven adoption agencies should not have the power to alter identity documents or control access to family history.
- Support Family Preservation First – Instead of prioritizing adoption, efforts should be made to support vulnerable mothers and families so they can raise their children.
- Acknowledge the Harm of Forced Separation – Adoption should never be romanticized as an act of salvation. Many adoptees experience lifelong grief, identity struggles, and the pain of being severed from their roots.
A Right to Truth, A Right to Identity. Join Adoption Truth & Transparency
Adoptees search for their mothers because blood, history, and identity matter. They are not seeking a fantasy; they are seeking truth. And that truth should never have been hidden from them in the first place. The adoption industry’s attempts to erase and rewrite history must be dismantled so that every adoptee has the right to their own story, their lineage, and their reality.
Mother Nature Intended for Families to Stay Together.
Where that is not possible, the truth must remain intact. It’s time for society to address the injustices that have long been overlooked and ensure that no adopted person is ever denied their right to know their origins.
