An interview with Rev. Dr. Janine, Author, Activist, and Adoptee Advocate, inspired this article:
In the realm of adoption, there’s a dark underbelly that many are unaware of—a realm dominated by profiteers who will say and do anything to make you believe that relinquishing your child is the best, if not the only, option. This manipulative and deceiving industry, driven by profit, often prioritizes financial gain over the welfare of both birth parents and children. It’s time to shed light on these practices and reveal the truth behind the adoption industry’s façade.
The Business of Adoption: A Profit-Driven Machine
The adoption industry is a multi-billion-dollar enterprise. Adoption agencies, lawyers, and facilitators often have a financial incentive to ensure adoptions go through. This profit-driven approach can lead to unethical practices where the emotional and psychological well-being of birth parents and children are sidelined.
What are the Three Biggest Manipulation Tactics?
Emotional Coercion
Adoption agencies often employ emotional coercion tactics to persuade birth parents to relinquish their children. They may present adoption as the most selfless and noble option, overshadowing the natural and instinctive desire to parent. They play on feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy, making parents believe they are incapable of providing for their children.
Misleading Information
Many agencies provide misleading information about the realities of adoption. They may downplay the emotional toll it takes on birth parents, the potential for long-term trauma in children, and the challenges of closed or semi-open adoptions. This selective presentation of information can create a skewed perception, making adoption appear as the ideal solution when it may not be.
Financial Incentives
Some adoption agencies offer financial incentives to birth parents, such as covering medical expenses or providing living allowances. While these offers can be tempting, they often come with strings attached, pressuring parents to make decisions they might not otherwise consider if they were fully informed and supported.
The Impact on Vulnerable Parents and Children
The long-term effects of adoption can be profound and far-reaching. Vulnerable parents often experience intense grief, loss, and regret, feelings that can persist for a lifetime. Children, too, can suffer from identity issues, feelings of abandonment, and the psychological impact of being separated from their biological families.
The Need for Truth, Transparency, and Support
It’s crucial for the adoption process to be transparent and for vulnerable parents to receive unbiased information and support. This includes counseling, access to all available options, and the assurance that their decision will be respected regardless of the outcome. Ethical practices must replace the current profit-driven motives.
Standing Up Against Deception
We must challenge the adoption industry’s manipulative practices. By raising awareness and demanding truth and transparency, we can ensure that the rights and well-being of parents and children are prioritized over profit.
The adoption industry’s tactics are not just sad and pathetic; they are deeply troubling and unethical. As a society, we must hold these profiteers accountable and work towards a system that genuinely supports and respects the decisions of vulnerable parents and the lives of children.
Final Thoughts
If you or someone you know is considering adoption, seek out unbiased support and comprehensive information. Remember, you have the right to make the best decision for yourself and your child without being manipulated by profit-driven entities. Let’s strive for a future where the adoption process is fair, transparent, and centered on the well-being of all involved.
By exposing the deceitful practices of the adoption industry, we hope to empower vulnerable parents with the knowledge and support they need to make informed decisions. Share this post to spread awareness and stand against the exploitation inherent in the adoption business.
